Many people struggle on a daily basis to fit in and belong. The struggles, and consequences of these struggles manifest differently, and the truth is in order to have peace in the world we have to continue to explore what is truly meaningful personally.
To feel like we truly belong we have to have courage to be ourselves and realize that sometimes it means we can’t please others or that we won’t belong to a specific group. This will no doubt cause pain and suffering and require courage, vulnerability and resilience. However, when we try to fit in and go against our grain, we also suffer.The more we face the fears we have of being our true self,imperfections and all, we find that being ourselves can be our biggest gift to the world.
Our inherent goodness and worthiness is waiting to be uncovered at all times.
I read this recently and it explains so much of what is happening within relationships around the world. I have been concerned about the amount of hatred that is present in speeches given by leaders and the actions being taken against groups of people globally. Courage rooted in hatred and fear will eventually dissolve, but after having harmed people and the earth. We have seen this happen over and over again in our history. In destroying others we invariably destroy ourselves too.
Removing fear and hatred within our own minds takes courage. Because we are left feeling vulnerable without the protection of the monsters face to scare others with. As that monstrous face peels of, the authentic, genuine and compassionate face is revealed to ourselves and the world. In the process we alleviate our own suffering and of those around us.
Cultivating peace, promoting well being and harmony in good times is easier to do. When there is anger, fear, hatred, greed and intolerance around us, it takes clarity, discernment, and sheer focus on actions enveloped in love. Courage that leaves us feeling vulnerable and wanting to protect ourselves and others from harm is rooted in love.
There are so many people all over the world who are looking for food, shelter, safety, and belonging. We can choose to turn away from their suffering or alleviate their suffering. We can choose to destroy them because of our own fears or choose to protect them from harm.
Cultivating mindful awareness and compassionately viewing our experience is a way to step out of auto pilot. Although meditations can be done at any time of the day, a morning meditation can set the tone for the day. Words and phrases from a guided meditation can serve as reminders to bring awareness to our thoughts and actions. From todays meditation, the phrase “Dance of Aliveness” resonated from me. To be aware and at ease in this world. To be rooted in the present moment and be flexible in each moment.
“The brain takes its shape from what the mind rests upon” Rick Hanson
Rick Hanson talks about resting the mind on pleasant experiences continually for lasting resilience, inner strength and cultivating a positive outlook.
When we are busy at work, taking care of family, achieving goals, we get caught up in getting it all done. Taking a pause is important. Its being mindful of the work being done and the experience being created.
Whether you decide to do a stretch, a breathing exercise, find an image to gaze upon, bring up a joyful memory, pauses of 1 to 3 minutes can replenish you for long periods of time.
Pauses are not frivolous, instead they are an act of kindness.